3 Tips for a Great Sex Life – How to Ensure Satisfying Sex

What is the secret to a good relationship? Sex is vital to just about all happy and long-lasting relationships between men and women. It is not the most important aspect to many. Others mistakenly downplay the role of sex between couples, and attribute any and all emotional issues to other causes.

Here we won’t be talking about what are the best sexual positions, or how to please him or her with your fantastic oral sex techniques. These topics are deserving of their place – many people genuinely are ignorant when it comes to sexual performance and the right techniques to make your passionate feelings translate into orgasms.

A common saying when it comes to satisfying sex, and how to make sure you get it from a potential partner, is: “Try before you buy!”

Some people advocate waiting until marriage before embarking on a sexual relationship, however this is very risky. The man and woman may be totally incompatible sexually, and this could doom their future to failure.

For the following sex advice tips, we are going to apply them to long-standing relationships that had once been characterized by great sex, but somehow this has gone off the rails and become boring – if it hasn’t stopped altogether.

1. Communication

If one or both partners are suffering from a poor sex life, then without adequate communication channels, the problem will never be fixed. If you are miserable because your partner is either withholding sex from you, or rationing it out like a reward, you must let him or her know about your feelings immediately. The longer you leave it, the worse the problem will become.

Sometimes, the reasons may be quite mundane. For example, the woman may have a rash or discharge that she is embarrassed or even ashamed about, and would rather die that let her man know about it. Therefore, she keeps her knickers on at night and pretends to fall asleep. The same could apply to a man. Perhaps he has an erectile dysfunction that he is deeply troubled by, and the more he worries, the worse it gets.

Once a particular problem or problems are out in the open, it is surprising how simple they are to deal with.

If your partner is reluctant to speak about the problem, seek professional help from a qualified sex therapist.

If even this suggestion is greeted with silence, there may be some deeper underlying issues – perhaps even infidelity – and for this you may need the help of either a psychologist or other expert.

If you find out you are being cheated on, then decide if you want to salvage the relationship, or whether it may be better to abandon it altogether.

2. Patience

Once you have established what the problem is with your wife or husband, be aware that some sex problems take a while to sort out. If it is a physical or mental health problem, then it may take weeks, months or years.

When initiating sex with a partner who has been withholding, go gently and treat them with kid gloves at first. If your wife has been reluctant to even touch your penis for a while, don’t expect her to give you the blow job of your life just because she said she is willing to try to reactivate your sex life.

3. Respect

Give your woman or man space to breath. Don’t stifle them with demands. This is the key to getting the “respect” part sorted out.

Always treat your husband and wife with respect in bed. Make sure you give plenty of assurances that you understand whatever problem they have. Sometimes your partner may only want a kiss and a cuddle, and not mind blowing orgasms every night. He or she may be dead tired from working hard all week – you need to respect that.

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How Pornography Addiction Affects The Sex Lives of Couples

If one half of a couple is addicted to pornography in a monogamous relationship, it is a certainty that over time, the amount of sex that couple will have will reduce significantly (and eventually disappear altogether) and that any sex they do have will gradually become less loving and more perverse or aggressive as time goes on.

Many partners of porn addicts explain how at the start of their relationships their sex lives were breath-taking and about emotional and sexual intimacy but that over time – as their partner’s porn use increased – sex became less tender, more aggressive and far less frequent.

As this happens, many partners gradually begin to feel nothing more than objectified tools for the instant gratification of their porn addict – and totally interchangeable with porn – and cry inwardly at this. Some feel like punching their addict in the face when they are reduced to body parts to be mauled and assaulted during sex. They know their partner’s minds are with the porn images and porn performers they have seen and that they are – in effect – just pseudo sex dolls. They cease to feel cherished as a result. For many, kissing vanishes too – both from sex and their relationship as a whole.

Many loved ones feel that their partners would rather be having sex with “perfect” porn performers and not with their imperfect selves and this makes them feel ugly and undesirable which slowly but surely chips away at their self esteem more and more every day. This is made all the worse when porn addicts ask their partners to re-enact porn scenes they have seen or to act like porn performers during sex. Knowing their partners can only keep an erection if they do, they comply but then feel cheapened afterwards. Sex soon becomes utterly devoid of any real intimacy as a result. Sometimes, partners are not even asked for sex but are just taken roughly from behind. Others are groped whilst they sleep. This is probably because their addict has been watching “unconscious porn”.

As their partner’s addiction escalates, loved ones are often asked to do increasingly disturbing sexual things such as: remove all body hair so they look like the barely legal/ teenage bodies their partners are viewing; engage in S&M and bondage; have pain inflicted on them; have other people involved in their sex (which include “lesbians”, “shemales” and prostitutes); dress like porn performers or strippers; allow themselves to be slapped or strangled and are asked to have rough anal sex – amongst many other things and usually dependent upon what the porn addict has been viewing.

Their porn addicts soon begin to scare them. At first loved ones believe their partners behavior is simply sexual experimentation but soon realise something seriously untoward is happening yet loved ones can still be plagued with the feeling that it is they who are over-reacting and their partner usually agrees – telling them it is they who are “prudes”. Many loved ones do not want to be giving their partners what they often term “the nastier stuff” because it feels like a sort of rape to them but often do not have the strength to say no because they fear their addict will do porn all the more – and this is one of their worst fears as the porn is “competition”. One woman in my research wrote “Porn to me is like him having a lot of different mistresses – all of which my husband prefers to me. My husband has something that I can’t compete with – a never-ending stream of women who will do whatever he wants and ask for nothing in return.”

Often, porn addicts will go to porn for their arousal prior to sex leaving their partners naked in bed waiting for them. This hurts partners deeply. Sex then usually lasts only a few minutes and then the person leaves them immediately after climax (that is if climax is still possible due to the erectile dysfunction issues addicts have due to escalating porn use which is often the case).

The partners of porn addicts become obsessed over time with trying to get closer again to their loved ones as well as doing all they can to control or stop their partners porn use and will often go to great lengths to try and accomplish these things. In the process they often end up abandoning all their inhibitions and do things they do not want to be doing. But even “spicing things up” (like being filmed, photographed, going to adult or swingers clubs with their partners or adding more people to the sexual mix) does not keep their partners attention for long. More is then expected sexually of the partner. And whether the loved one gives the addict sex or not, the porn use never stops regardless how many times a day sex is given. Often, partners find their partners doing porn soon after having sex with them.

Often loved ones will start off being “the cool wife/ partner” by watching soft-core porn with the person, getting them subscriptions to porn magazines or porn channels as well as doing the whole “strip club” thing with them but none of these things bring the couple closer together. Quite the opposite in fact. It pushes them further apart because the loved one is enabling the addicts addiction and sex eventually becomes non-existent. Instead the addict just ends up just wanting to do porn on their own as their addiction progresses and the loved one is always thrown on the sexual scrap-heap feeling like just a room-mate to the person. If sex happens at all, it is usually the partner who initiates it and even then, there’s no foreplay or warmth and the addict has trouble orgasming or simply just staying erect/ aroused. Often addicts will fake orgasm then masturbate to porn whilst their loved one is asleep next to them. Addicts cunningly cover their backs by asking for sex only when their partner is too drained to be able to do it. Begging for sex starts to become humiliating for loved ones.

And so it goes on and on… Sometimes loved ones sleep on the couch to try and get the person to see sense but their addict simply does porn more now they don’t have to think of their partner being in the bedroom. Or the porn addict says they have erectile dysfunction due to being on an anti-depressant only to then be caught by their partner downloading porn and masturbating. Porn addicts end up complaining to their partners about being hounded for sex which leaves the self esteem of the loved one in shreds. This is the same for gay and straight relationships and where the porn addict is male or female.

And yet here is the irony… When the partners of porn addicts are being rejected left, right and centre sex wise their porn addicted partners are likely acting out with 3D games that allow players to “have sex with” performers where they can “give performers virtual orgasms”. If they are not doing that they also have the choice to buy and “have sex with” performer “body parts” (vagina and anus) made in the performers exact measurements. The real life partner is dying inside waiting for their loved one to touch them meanwhile “sex” is going on with a blow up body part and one day soon, a virtual reality avatar…

Numerology and Sex – For Adults Only!

Sex is important! Through the act we perpetuate the species, our own genetic material, and of course, we have fun. Sex is one of the fundamental drives of the human mind; ask any advertiser or film maker whether or not sex sells. Sex is what I like to call a Sensual Energy eXchange. There are different uses for this energy just as there are different inclinations and preferences regarding this energy. Using the Destiny Number, also called the Life Path, we can learn how to best channel this energy to fulfill our sexual needs. The Destiny Number is your birth date reduced to a single digit. For example, if you were on January 1, 1980 you would proceed: 1+1+1+9+8+0 = 20 and 2 + 0 = 2.

NOTE: Sexual expression is often considered taboo and even those who are ‘emancipated’ may have a number of repressions. In order to better illustrate the point we will focus upon the extremes. Do not be surprised if you find yourself experiencing a reaction of one form or another and keep an open mind, use these suggestions to embody your vibration sexually.

1 Destiny: You can be single minded in your pursuit of your lover. Taken to the extreme you can look at love as a contest and your partners as conquests. At times you focus too much upon your own satisfaction and be a little too dominant although, your partners find you exciting and willing to experiment. Sexual activities: You can channel your 1 energy be being on top. Make sure you experience the other end of the 1 spectrum by allowing your partner to ride. Ladies, try red lingerie for an exciting night.

2 Destiny: You are a caring lover who aims to please in any way that you can. You enjoy kissing, hugging, and cuddling. In fact, such things are necessary as you need to feel protected and nurtured. At the extreme end you may try to plan things out in advance and schedule love making. You can be a bit submissive and follow your partner’s energy very well. Sexual activities: Show your partner your willingness to please by displaying your body through dance and self-pleasure for their eyes only. On the other side, playfully refuse your lovers advances from time to time and learn to enjoy the power that comes with teasing. Ladies should consider shades of orange in lingerie and makeup.

3 Destiny: You are an exciting and playful lover with a lot of confidence. This gives you the ability to make your partner feel comfortable with your playful, light hearted attitude towards sex. You like different positions and are likely to have a copy of Kama Sutra on your shelf. You can be so uninhibited that you may make your lover blush! Sexual activities: Activities that allow for the sensual exploration of other parts of the body are ideal such as breast sex and foot or toe sex. Ladies can spice things up with shades of yellow.

4 Destiny: Fours can struggle with emotions, especially understanding the passions of their partner. You are slow and steady and may delay lovemaking to build up the steam. Relationships are very important and you are extremely loyal and faithful. Your sex life can become stagnant if you take an intellectual approach and rely only upon the tried and true methods of becoming turned on. Sexual activities: Turn off the lights and crawl under the covers with your lover. Slow, gentle, and long. On the flip side of the coin, go wild every once in a while. Try making love outdoors. Ladies, green is the color to pull out your sensual side to the max.

5 Destiny: The adventurous one! You enjoy variety and excitement. Spontaneity is a turn on as are new places, new positions and new people! You are attractive to the opposite sex and need mental as well as physical stimulation. You like the ups and downs of passion and stimulation. Sexual activities: You may want to eat from a larger menu that includes oral and anal fun, role playing, and other ‘non-standard’ activities like spanking. Ladies should wear blue underclothes and makeup.

6 Destiny: Sixes are quite devoted and need to maintain the balance and harmony in a relationship. When you find that special someone giving in to carnal desires is a joy. Music, candles, and lighting all help to create that air of romance. Long, very long sessions of foreplay including lots of kissing is to your liking. Sexual activities: Being kissed and licked all over your body as well as massages and digital exploration will suit you just fine. Ladies should wear indigo, dark blue, and black.

7 Destiny: Dreamy and romantic, you secretly desire a spiritual connection with your lover. You can be a little spacey and detached and your analytical nature can produce an almost clinical approach to sex. However, you can potentially reach levels of intimacy with your lover that are beyond conscious comprehension. Sexual activities: Explore such things as Tantra and techniques allowing for a more meditative sexual experience. Shed that ‘clinical’ disposition and use some dirty words! Ladies, violets and purples will bring out your inner beast.

8 Destiny: Ok, you’re a freak. Or frigid. Up or down you’re either almost totally active or passive. You can be a little too wrapped up in the politics of sexual power and wouldn’t mind having total control of your partner. Seduce or be seduced. This attitude can alienate others however, when you make a commitment you do so completely. Sexual activities: Games that allow you to safely explore power relationships such as Bondage and Discipline or Role Playing. Learn to enjoy gushy, overly romantic displays. Ladies, the color pink will help you balance out your sexual urges.

9 Destiny: You can be so empathetic that you become a doormat. But, you enjoy helping your lover and often put your own needs on the backburner. But when they finally build up, watch out! Your passion can be volcanic and you lover can unexpectedly find that your quiet nature has become quite demanding. And exciting. Sexual activities: Anything that allows for mutual selfless pleasure such as sixty-nine or mutual masturbation. Ladies should try brown, bronze and chocolate colors in makeup and lingerie.

Transcending Sex – Discover the Easy Way on How You Can Go Beyond Sex and Live Blissfully!

Sex is a natural instinct that we all are born with. It is nature’s way of procreation and is among the biggest mysteries for man. We all are enchanted by its overwhelming power and the influence it exerts on our life. In this article, discover how you can easily transcend sex and achieve a blissful life.

The life of the modern man is dominated by sex. The industry and the advertisers have also recognized the influence sex exerts on man and have abused this quality. Anything can be sold to the modern man – all that needs to be done is to place the picture of a woman besides the product!

If sex remains natural and spontaneous then it never becomes a problem, but in the case of modern man it has become obsessive. Sexual thoughts just continue to stay in his mind all day long. A majority of the people are not satisfied with their sex lives! This creates repression, anguish and frustration.

What needs to be understood is that sex is not an end in itself. If we just run towards fulfilling our sexual desires, then we remain a slave to the temporary pleasure that it gives.

The fact is that the sexual energy is not only a means of procreation, but it is also a means of achieving greater levels of consciousness and spirituality! All one needs to know is how to channelize it in the proper way.

The sexual act is the natural means towards which our body energy flows and it has been created by nature that way. If we are desirous of achieving higher planes of consciousness, we need to channelize our body energy into higher points of consciousness in our body called the chakras.

There are many ways how this channelizing of our subtle energy can be achieved. Some of the methods are meditation, mantra chanting, tantra, conscious relaxation (yoga nidra) and prayer.

It is really very easy to live blissfully once we learn the right techniques. It might be surprising to you, but the fact is that sex is not the only and the biggest joy; there are deeper planes of bliss and serenity that can be achieved by understanding our mind and unlocking its vast potential.

Vijay Kumar Raisinghani is an avid proponent of the use of easy and simple meditation techniques for a healthier stress-free living. Besides being an Active meditator, his interests include Spirituality, Meditation, Buddhism and Zen.

How to Achieve a Higher Sex Drive For Females

Giving a boost to your sex drive can work wonders for your sex life. With the use of the simple tips that follow, women can achieve a higher sex drive to enhance their sex lives.

The first thing that you should consider in achieving a higher sex drive is your diet. The amino acid, arginine, helps to boost the circulation of blood to the genitals; a delicious snack of pumpkin seeds, almonds and Brazil nuts will give you arginine and taste great. Chocolate contains phenethylamine, a chemical that is produced in the brain when we fall in love; just make sure that there is a high cocoa content to get the desired effect.

Any dish can be erotic if it is enjoyed with a touch of sensual pleasure. Oxytocin, the love hormone, is needed in large amounts in order to become sexually aroused. If you are stressed or overloading your brain, it very unlikely that your body will create oxytocin. Enjoying a meal with your lover with dimmed lighting and soft music can help to boost the production of the love hormone. If you are drinking some wine to relax, it is key to remember moderation as too much can make you more likely to engage in sexual activity but not enjoy it as much.

Another lifestyle change you can make to boost your sex drive is exercising on a regular basis. Aerobic are well suited and boost your stamina, help with your overall body image, raise and lighten your mood, and in the long run, increase your libido.

Concerns you have in regards to work, financial matters and family issues create stress that will affect your sex drive. Finding ways to better cope with stresses can make it easier for you to get in “the mood”. Having a brighter outlook on life, little things to make you happy, and an overall sense of well-being and happiness are essential to eliminating stress.

Strengthening your pelvic muscles with Kegel exercises greatly improve your awareness of the muscles involved with the pleasurable sexual sensations that boost your libido. In order to do Kegel exercises, you squeeze your pelvic muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine; hold for five counts, then relax. Rinse and repeat. Performing this exercise numerous times a day is best.

Now let’s get to your actual relationship with your partner. There are some changes that should be made in order to create more emotional intimacy, which, more often than not, results in better sexual intimacy. We hear it all of the time, but communication with your partner is incredibly important. Conflicts and disagreements are a natural part of any relationship, but couples who argue and communicate in an open an honest way maintain a strong emotional connection and respect for one another, which results in better sex. You and your partner must communicate about your sexual desires; what you enjoy and what you don’t.

If there are some issues that you just can’t talk to your partner about, seeking counsel from a sex therapist or counsellor can really help in opening up channels of communication between the two of you. This includes education about sexual responses, certain techniques, and recommendations for reading materials and exercises. Sometimes, resorting to medical treatments can help you improve your sex drive. It is not necessary, but could help if you feel you have no other options. The first thing to keep in mind is to treat any underlying cause of a diminished sex drive. Get a checkup to make sure everything is in working order and that any medical treatments won’t interfere with illnesses or medications.

For some women, you’ll find that some form of estrogen therapy can help. This can be administered through the patch, pill, or gel that improve the brain function and mood aspects involved in sexual response. Even local estrogen therapy, in the forms of vaginal creams or suppositories, can help to increase blood flow to the vagina.

Sometimes, setting aside a time for intimacy can really help to boost your sex drive by making an intimacy a priority. Trying out a different position, location, or even a different time of day can be simple ways to spice up your sex life. Experimentation can bring back the spark to your sexual experiences.

With these easy tips, you can improve your sex drive in no time at all. It is best to try out the methods that are easily done without medical help; if all else fails, consult your doctor about the medical therapies that are suitable for you.

Read This Before Downloading Any Adult Sex Guide

The online world is actually inundated with adult sex guides. Just try searching for them on your favorite search engine and you are going to see such a lot of them waiting for you. They are all priced differently according to what they are supposed to contain and they contain different things as well. But, the point is, do you really need an adult sex guide?

The question you have to ask yourself is why you are looking for such a book to help you. Definitely the answer is that you are looking at improving your sexual performance. You are looking at giving your woman greater pleasure in bed. And you are hoping that the tantalizing sex guide you are looking forward to download will help you with it.

But, the fact is, no sex guide can help you if you don’t help yourself. These are some points you have to consider beforehand.

1. Good sex doesn’t come without a good equation with your partner. Yes, there are books that will train you in the pure art of carnal sex, but if you are in a long term committed relationship, then such a book won’t help you. Probably you will need a book that will tell you how to construct a better relationship with your partner than just some meaningless sex.

2. If you indulge in a great deal of foreplay, you can arouse your woman immensely. This is something that can really help you in what lies ahead. Maybe you won’t need the adult sex guide to spice up your act after that.

3. Another thing you have to consider is that you will need to actually implement the things that are mentioned in the guide if you want it to be effective for you. You cannot just read the book and then not implement it. Then it would be a futile exercise. In all probability the book is going to tell you about how you can have some more daring sexual experiences to make things more exciting-you have to be able to use that.

These are some of the things that you have to consider before downloading any adult sex guide. Will you be able to do it? That’s the question you have to answer.

How to Carefully Approach Adult Sex Dating

I think there comes a point when we have to stop being a society in denial. The internet is a place of all sorts and adult sex dating is one of the realities of the internet-dating world. Not everyone is looking for a relationship and not everyone is looking for a date to spend the night. There are some of us with a clear understanding of exactly what they want in life and I think I can applaud them for being honest with themselves. Dating sites that are specific about their intent and their demographic are quite readily available online, with varying names – some famous and some not.

They also are quite a few that cater to very specific sexual and niche interests, I mean the world is made up of all sorts and the internet has allowed them to find a place in the world where they can find like minded individuals who would be able to share their same likes and dislikes. Some of us have higher libidos than other’s and are much more comfortable with our own sexualities. This is the driving force behind these websites and dating services. It isn’t because that society has become perverted and that they need to run to the corners of the digital world to see their interests expressed.

It is much the other way around. Some of us have matured more than others and we need to see that human are murals of expression and we are built with different colours of the human spectrum. We cannot always have a negative thought to those who are honest about themselves, we cannot treat them as outcasts of society just because we cannot understand them. We must be patient, we must be accepting, we must be enlightened. Yes the adult sex dating scene is a dangerous world with potential stalkers and nefarious beings but these dating sites are pretty secure in their treatment of their subject matter. Privacy is at an all time high and the quality websites filter all the potential malware, scams, pornographic companies that try to infiltrate their databases to garner more business. Adult sex dating is all about the physical relationship and the discovery of both pleasure and physical attraction. But this does not mean that it cannot be pure.

There are those who will take advantage of the system and there are those who are in it because it is a part of their lifestyle. Normally, the end users of these websites will be able to weed out these individuals and get them banned. There are quite a few quality adult sex dating sites online and you can spot them because of the fact that they are discreet, offer a comprehensive security warning, have many pages of disclaimers and require that you complete and fill out a personal particulars form before you continue – one that has to be verified through email. These precautions and more are there to keep out the black hats and make adult sex dating a safer experience for those who would like to find an avenue to express themselves.